Living in a Pit

Hey girlfriends!!!! I’ve missed you all!

I’ve been adjusting to a new job the past few months, I’ll be writing about that journey and sharing with you soon, because trust me when I say the devil shows up especially when abundant blessings come our way.

Enough of that! I’m so excited about sharing what I’m learning while reading a book that I received last year by Beth Moore titled “Get Out of that Pit”. This book has been an amazing read so far and I plan on sharing more from it with you over the next few blog posts.


A pit is defined as a large hole in the ground. Let’s think about the pits that are present in our spiritual life, the holes that we may have present in that aspect. We all have pits in our life at some point or another no matter how saved we are.

Moore starts out by stating that we often don’t even realize that we are in a pit because we often become so accustomed to our situations. We don’t have to stay in the pit if we don’t want, we just need to realize that we are there and climb out! How often do we stay in a horrible relationship or dead-end job that is driving us mad and we just get so used to the bad situation that we become numb to our pain and suffering? How often do we hold on to grudges when we are wronged instead of realizing that we can’t change what has happened or who has wronged us? We all have times that we hold on to what we don’t need to or stay in dire situations simply because it becomes our norm. Moore states in her book “We feel too buried in our present state to feel passionate about a promised future.” We must learn to trust in Him and step out on faith in order to change our circumstances and get out of the pits that we fall into from time to time.



Moore identifies 3 ways to get into a pit and the first is when we get thrown into a pit by someone else, she often refers to this as a “pit of innocence”. There are many times in life that bad things just happen to us based upon someone else’s actions despite how “good” we are or undeserving. Moore describes the “pit of innocence” as the most complicated pit to deal with emotionally and spiritually because we have someone else to blame for our suffering. When we are dealing with a pit that someone throws us into we have to rely on forgiveness. We stay in the pit if we choose not to forgive despite whether or not the wrongdoer takes responsibility or not.

I will talk about a pit that I was thrown into. I am recently divorced and I would perceive this happening to me as a pit that I was thrown into. I would have never imagined that I would be in the situation I was in last year going through a divorce. I tried to recommend counseling and therapy to no avail in order to safe my marriage and keep my family together for my children despite me not being the one who was defying my vows. I felt thrown into a pit! After my attempts to save my marriage failed, I realized that I had to first accept the situation that I was in and that life for me and my children would be drastically different. This realization was hard to deal with, not only for me but for my family as well. I then grew in my faith and trusted that God would take care of me. I leaned on Him at all times and was able to grow in tremendous ways spiritually. Lastly, and this one is the hardest to do, I forgave my ex-husband. Preaching is so much easier than practicing, but if I’m going to stress forgiveness I have to practice it myself!!! I don’t blame my ex for anything that happened any longer, I’ve accepted my circumstances and I use my experience as a testimony to other women going through similar situations. I believe that God put me through so much last year in order to use me to testify to other women in order to help them though tough times. There is always a lesson in everything we go through! As Moore states in her book, “If God allowed you to be thrown into a pit, you weren’t picked on; you were picked out. God entrusted that suffering to you because He has faith in you. Live up to it. All the way up.”

Girlfriends, I want to hear about a time when you felt that you were thrown into a pit by someone else. What “pit of innocence” were you thrown into and how did you get out of it or how are you working to get out of it?

Love you all!!!

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Healthy Grocery List


Hey Ladies!!!! So I finished reading this book called Heeling Foods. It is a reference / recipe book that was an EXCELLENT READ for those who wbookant to learn more about the healing properties that exist in many fruits and vegetables. As one of my professors always say “ People who live the longest in this world eat a plant-based diet, therefore it is very important that you eat your 9-13 servings of fruits and vegetables everyday”. So here is my grocery list that I created  from the book. Now the tips beside the food items are my personal notes from reading, if you like you can do them as well. I plan to continue to practice this clean eating lifestyle on a daily basis.  As a naturalist, i truly believe that “ you are what you eat”.

Tips and daily goals :

  • Eat 9-13 servings of fruits and vegetables everyday
  • Lightly cook and season vegetables with herbs (basil, thyme, rosemary, paprika, etc….)
  • No processed food / snacks ( do not purchase or  consume anything that has a label)
  • meal prep for the week
  • only drink  WATER, infused water, natural juices
  • try to alternate between all the different fruits and veggies when shopping (don’t buy the same thing and don’t cook the same dish.. Switch it up! use pinterest, facebook, google, cook books… !)

Grocery list !


-Apple: go organic

-Apricots: (get dried/ if fresh seed inside stone is edible)



-plum/ prunes

-kiwi (skin is edible )

-figs ( since not in season get dried figs )

-cherries (pick sour over sweet / go organic )

-red grapes (get seeded and eat seeds / freeze grapes and eat as snack  )

-blackberries ( eat at room temp and eat fresh ( soon as you buy them )

– blueberry (buy organic )

-cranberry ( make cranberry tea )

-elderberries ( turn into syrup / jam … is used to help fight the flu)

-strawberries ( go organic / buy in season )IMG_2370

-raspberries (go organic / buy fully ripe )






– dried dates ( healthy snack / buy fresh once in season )




-pomegranate (eat seeds )

-pineapple ( smell the bottom.. If it smells sweet then it is sweet)

Veggies :


-Broccoli (raw to light stem)

-Brussel sproutIMG_2559

-kale (light stem, squeeze lemon in pot)

-red peppers

-green and yellow peppers

– cucumber

-squash (eat seeds / buy organic/ butternut )

-yellow squash

-green zucchini




-green beans


-peas (buy  snow peas , sugar snap peas) ( eat raw straight from pod or light stem  )

-asparagus (buy in season feb-June /cook for only 3-5 minutes)


-Sweet potatoes (steam or boil them / buy purple skin and flesh one if u see it)


Whole grains ( 50% of grain intake must be whole grain )


-brown rice

– whole wheat pasta

-whole wheat bread

-oats (make oatmeal : fruit, cinnamon, honey, vanilla extract, nutmeg , milk)

-whole wheat wrap

-whole grain cereals

-whole grain muffins




-pistachio nuts (keep cool, splash onto of yogurt )




-pine nuts


– sesame seeds (salad)

-sunflower seeds (snack)

-flax seeds (smoothie )

-Hemp seeds

-poppy seeds

-chia seeds (oatmeal/yogurt )

Dried beans : ( substitute meat for beans  twice a week for dinner ) (look up crock pot dishes)

-Black beans

-Butter bean

-Chick peas

-Kidney beans

Herbs & Roots : IMG_1051

-rosemary ( make infused water )

-mint ( infused water)




-tumeric ( make tumeric tea )

-ginger ( make ginger tea )

(if you have any questions about where to shop or how to prep items, please feel free to email me at

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Happy New Year!!!

Hey girlfriends! I have missed you all dearly!!!! I’ve been so busy with a new job and trying to juggle that with my children’s hectic schedule and transitioning to life after divorce. Whew!!! I’ve been busier than you can imagine. I wanted to write this last post of 2017 to share some lessons that I’ve learned this year and to share the favor that God has shown me through this crazy year.


I was given the wonderful opportunity to write for Girlfriends Guide to Jesus this year and it has been an amazing experience. It has given me a network of girlfriends and sisters in Christ to share my experiences; the good, bad, and ugly! It has been amazing to know that so many women share my experiences and are there to fellowship with me in many different ways. We have an amazing network of girlfriends who gather on our Facebook page and also had the opportunity to participate in a 40-day prayer revival this year. I very much look forward to fellowshipping with you all in 2018 and developing strong bonds and even stronger ties to our Lord.


I’ve learned that having faith can make a world of a difference in my life. With the year that I’ve had I have learned to let go and let God. I have learned to trust Him and know that he is in control at all times and what he has for me will be for me. It is important to pray and prepare yourself for what He has in store for you, whatever that may be. There is so much strength in having faith!


I’ve had a lot of time alone this year, more than I’ve ever had in my entire life. At first it was very hard and was the hardest part about being newly single. I didn’t like to be alone, ever! However, I learned to use that time when I’m alone to build a better relationship with God and learn myself all over again. I started to take more pride in myself and learned to have a love for myself that I’ve never experienced. I learned to take care of me for once in my life and it has made me a much better Christian, sister, friend, daughter, and mother.

Girlfriends, it has been a pleasure to share my experiences with you and I very much look forward to sharing more with you in 2018!!! Happy New Year and God Bless!

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Where’s our Sisterhood???


Hey girlfriends!

We need to have a real discussion. I am very troubled by the recent comments that I have seen online regarding Meagan Good and her most recent Halloween costume. Halloween within itself is a very controversial topic within the Christian community due to its origin. Some feel that Christians should not dress up on Halloween at all and some just have a problem with Good’s outfit being “too sexy” for a Christian woman. Good has also been a topic of conversation amongst Christians since marrying popular Christian preacher, author, and motivational speaker DeVon Franklin in 2012 due to opinions about her “sexy” image and coupling with a popular Christian figure. Comments about Good’s recent Halloween attire are not the first that have floated about online regarding opposition to her image as the wife of a Christian leader.

Unfortunately, so-called Christian women have made most of the nasty comments that I have seen! It’s very disheartening that Good has had to defend herself against these women who feel that they have the ability to judge other women. How can we call ourselves Christians and judge others so harshly? One of the most important facets of the Christian faith is love. We should use our faith to uplift one another, not tear each other down and constantly judge. We have far more important spiritual battles to fight than judging other sisters and their attire based on what we think is appropriate or not.

“Brothers and sisters, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against a brother or sister or judges them speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it. There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you – who are you to judge your neighbor? (James 4: 11-12) NIV

Girlfriends, what’s your take on this issue???


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5 Morning Rituals to Live By


1. Prayer

I make it my goal to pray every morning! This is the most essential part of my day. It is imperative to realize that He is the reason we are able to rise every day and He should most definitely be thanked for it daily!!! This is also a way to ask the Lord for blessings as we go out into a society that challenges us everyday; emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

“Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always.”(1 Chronicles 16:11)

  1. Scripture

One way that we serve the Lord is through devotion. It is important to read our Bibles, as this is the way to learn God’s word, will, and wishes for us. I begin my day with prayer and then read and study scripture to enhance my knowledge of God’s word. If you are not familiar with navigating the Bible, you could utilize the popular Bible app. This app has amazing Bible plans to follow; the plans often start with a daily devotion and then lead to scripture related to the devotion for the day. There are hundreds of plan topics to choose from such as addiction, divorce, marriage, prayer, etc.

“It is the Lord your God you must follow, and him you must revere.” (Deuteronomy 13:4)

  1. Fitness

We as women (particularly mothers) tend to put everyone before ourselves! We have to practice self-care on a daily basis and one of the most important elements of self-care is our physical and mental health. We can’t be good for anyone else unless we are good to ourselves first. Take time out to go to your local fitness center or walking trail to kick your day in gear. Many fitness centers have amazing classes and training sessions that begin very early to start your day on the right track. My faves are Zumba and Body Pump (weight lifting)! While we are making sure that our bodies are right, do not forget to strengthen your mental as well. Taking time out to meditate or read an uplifting novel or self-help book before starting your day can set a perfect tone for the rest of your day.

“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.” (3 John 1:2)

  1. Healthy Meal

This goes hand in hand with fitness. There is nothing better than starting your day off with a well-balanced, healthy meal. God gave you one body and it is up to you and only you to cherish it and treat is as the temple he intended it to be. Make sure that you nourish your body with the proper nutrients that it needs!

  1. Positive Affirmations

Before I part from my children, I make a point to send them off with positive affirmations. I also do this for myself! We often get caught up in thinking about work or school and the challenges that those situation may bring instead of thinking about the blessings that we have due to our jobs or the education that we are receiving. We know that once we step out of our homes that we will be faced with many challenges from many different forces. It is important that we must affirm to ourselves and loved ones that we will be okay despite the situations and challenges that come our way on a daily basis.

“The Lord has done it this very day; let us rejoice today and be glad.” (Psalm 118:24)

Here is to many blessed mornings Girlfriends, Love Ya!!!!!

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It… “Happens”

When life “happens” where are your eyes? When unexpected problems arise where are your eyes? When fear, anxiety, self doubt and disappointment tip-toes it’s way into your life, where are your eyes? Personally, historically speaking I can say that my eyes were everywhere other than on Pops (God… Jesus; my Lord and Savior). I never stop to look at the bigger picture and how could this “hiccup” in my life can actually be for my good and God’s Glory. Often times we get so consumed with how we “picture” our life should be, that when the unexpected happens we get caught off guard. Especially if we aren’t centered in TRUTH. I for one know how difficult it is being an adult trying to balance success, friendships, a relationship with Pops and everything else that may come my way. For example, I’ve been trying to find fulfillment in my life. I know we aren’t just created to work (for someone else at that) just to attempt to pay off whatever bills and lingering debt we may have. We have greater purpose. However, I always end up placing that “purpose” on the back burner to my job and the debt thats hanging over my head causing me to feel like Im not progressing in life. I say to myself, “I’ll start my purpose once this is taken care of or once I get to this pay grade or once this is paid off”. Why should I wait for the stars to align to start walking in my purpose? What about acting on FAITH? Then I end up looking at what OTHER people are doing and comparing my situation to their situation and adding more stress and self doubt on myself. In turn I can’t look at myself in the mirror and in walks anxiety. *Insert eye rolls*  I have to constantly remind myself that everyone has their own story, their own testimony, and no 1 story will exactly mirror the next. I believe that FINDING purpose and actively WALKING in purpose is a never ending battle. But when you constantly look to Pops throughout the good and bad that never ending journey will become easier to bear. *Deep Breath* So again, “When life “happens” make sure your eyes are gazing upon Pops and you’ll never lose.


Yours Truly,

Transparent Jai


2 Chronicles 20 “…We do not know what to do, but our eyes are on you”. (NIV)

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Getting The “Best” Of The Worst

Hey girlfriends!!! 

I am currently going through one of the worst times of my life! I have been separated from my husband since March of this year and I am currently going through a very contentious divorce. On top of this very difficult life hurdle, we have 2 young children together that I am now supporting on my own with a veeeery low salary. Despite these very hard times, I have been able to get through this season by grace of God!

I have every reason in the world to be severely depressed, but God has drawn me closer to Him than I have ever been in my entire life. It has been very evident to me during this season that I had never made God a focal point in my home and in my life in general. He has shown me that He is the only way (bigly LOL!!!)! (John 14:6 “For I am the way, the truth, and the life”) I truly believe that I am going through this difficult season in my life because I ignored signs that God had sent me about my spouse. I feel that God brings us to our lowest points at times to show us the way in which we should be leading our lives. He has truly shown me that I have needed Him as the most important in my life all along; this is a relationship that I have never nurtured before this season.

It is during our toughest season that we should be the most thankful to our Most High, for this is our test of faith and our opportunity to learn what God is trying to teach us. During what I call the worst time of my life, I have been getting the best experience of my life with God! I have never been so close in my relationship with God, nor have I been so dedicated to Him. When life feels at its worst give God your best, as He will always be there with you no matter who or what leaves you!!! (Hebrews 13:5 “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee”) ♥️

-Carmon S. 

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Evangelizing The Doomed 

Series Title: Evangelizing The Doomed 

Lesson Title: The meaning of Evangelism 

Lesson Text: Luke 5:27-31, Luke 13:34-35, Exodus 32:7-14 
What is Evangelism? 

– sharing the word of God. 

– What we do to help make the Christian faith life & mission live option 

– Happens when the receiver returns to Christ the Christian message & ethic congregation to the world in love & mission. **you aren’t evangelizing until you extend the invitation to accept Christ** 

In order to evangelize effectively, we must:
1. Identify with them 

2. Agonize with those who aren’t saved

3. Have authority 
5 Principles of Non- Threatening Evangelism 
1. Display a Christian disposition at all times. 

2. Have a willingness to listen & if appropriate counsel. 

3. Have a proclivity towards finding a resolution. 

4. Willingness to share your faith 

5. Have a Reputation as being a Christian, not necessarily religious. *You LOVE JESUS* 
6 Keys to winning Souls for Jesus 
1. Establish a relationship of trust * Can they trust you* 

2. Explain what Jesus means to you, NOT to your church! 

3. Make Faith simple (The ABC’s – ADMIT you’re a sinner, BELIEVE he died for your sins, CONFESS them)

4. What’s In it for them (They want to know what’s in it for them) 

5. Share the benefits of Christianity but it’s okay to focus on earthly benefits. 

6. Press without pushing for a commitment. ( You have to know when to back off) 

*Series in August *

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Joy, Prayers, Thankfullness 

Our joy, prayers, and thankfulness should not fluctuate with our circumstances or feelings. Obeying these three commands – be joyful, never stop praying, and be thankful- often goes against our natural inclinations. When we make a conscious decision to do what God says, however, we will begin to see people in a new perspective. When we do God’s will, we will find it easier to be joyful and thankful. 

We cannot spend all out time on our knees praying but it is possible to have a prayerful attitude at all times. This attitude is built upon acknowledging our dependence on God, realizing his presence within us, and determining to obey him fully. Then we will find it natural to pray frequent, spontaneous, short prayers. A prayerful attitude is not a substitute for regular times of prayer but should be an outgrowth of those times. 
Have you ever grown tired of praying for something or someone? Paul said that believers should never stop praying. A Christian’s persistence is an expression of faith that God answers prayer. Faith shouldn’t die if the answers come slowly, for the delay may be God’s way of working his will. When you feel tired of praying, know that God is present, always listening, always answering- in ways that he knows are best. 

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Daily Inspiration: The Way

When you find your path, you must not be afraid. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment, defeat, and despair are the tools God uses to show us the way.
Read Matthew 6